For Teens Who Hurt Sometimes
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regina@lifecanbebetter.org
443-690-1962
Regina Sokas, LCPC
5420 Klee Mill Road, Suite 6
Sykesville, Maryland 21784
offices convenient to Carroll, Frederick,
Montgomery and Howard Counties in
Maryland
443-690-1962
Regina Sokas, LCPC
5420 Klee Mill Road, Suite 6
Sykesville, Maryland 21784
offices convenient to Carroll, Frederick,
Montgomery and Howard Counties in
Maryland
"Ah, but I was so much older then,
I'm younger than that now."
Bob Dylan
I'm younger than that now."
Bob Dylan
Ask anyone who is old (like me) and they will instantly recognize the
Bob Dylan quote at the top of the page. Back in my day, he was
sometimes called the voice of his generation. He didn't much like being
called that. He thought it was a label, and he didn't believe in labeling
people.
So what's with the quote? Well, as much as times have changed,
one sad fact hasn't changed much. People still spend way too much time
and energy trying to slap labels on people. Labels are one way that we
can hurt each other.
Let's face it, modern life is full of stress. Trying to avoid stress can
sometimes just make the situation worse. Have you ever ignored a bad
grade until it was too late? Have you ever gotten caught up in a drama
that was pointless? Those are the sorts of things that happen when we
pretend something isn't a problem or try to distract ourselves from a real
problem by focusing on something kinda dumb.
People = Complicated. Check out the page on relationships for some
information about how we humans spend our lives looking for balance
between being connected to other people and being our own, unique,
selves.
Sometimes the problem isn't something we've done or had done to
us. Sometimes we have a friend who is hurting. Stepping in to support a
friend is what friendship is all about. Just make sure that you have the
support that you need, too. Some problems are big enough that they
need teamwork.
Please remember that as you get ready to face each day, part of
pulling yourself together is gathering up your courage. All day long, each
person you spend any time with will either encourage you (give you more
energy & strength) or discourage you (make you doubt yourself & want to
give up).
One of life's tricks is to get good at identifying the encouraging
people and give them more of your time and attention. And watch out for
what I call the "courage vampires." They're the people who only seem to
be able to feel good about themselves if they're tearing someone else
down. Try not to give them any of your time at all!
Bob Dylan quote at the top of the page. Back in my day, he was
sometimes called the voice of his generation. He didn't much like being
called that. He thought it was a label, and he didn't believe in labeling
people.
So what's with the quote? Well, as much as times have changed,
one sad fact hasn't changed much. People still spend way too much time
and energy trying to slap labels on people. Labels are one way that we
can hurt each other.
Let's face it, modern life is full of stress. Trying to avoid stress can
sometimes just make the situation worse. Have you ever ignored a bad
grade until it was too late? Have you ever gotten caught up in a drama
that was pointless? Those are the sorts of things that happen when we
pretend something isn't a problem or try to distract ourselves from a real
problem by focusing on something kinda dumb.
People = Complicated. Check out the page on relationships for some
information about how we humans spend our lives looking for balance
between being connected to other people and being our own, unique,
selves.
Sometimes the problem isn't something we've done or had done to
us. Sometimes we have a friend who is hurting. Stepping in to support a
friend is what friendship is all about. Just make sure that you have the
support that you need, too. Some problems are big enough that they
need teamwork.
Please remember that as you get ready to face each day, part of
pulling yourself together is gathering up your courage. All day long, each
person you spend any time with will either encourage you (give you more
energy & strength) or discourage you (make you doubt yourself & want to
give up).
One of life's tricks is to get good at identifying the encouraging
people and give them more of your time and attention. And watch out for
what I call the "courage vampires." They're the people who only seem to
be able to feel good about themselves if they're tearing someone else
down. Try not to give them any of your time at all!
If you think that teenagers have stress free
lives, you're probably dreaming.
lives, you're probably dreaming.